Fanning The Fight & Mastery
I just started my first-ever desk job at an advertising firm this past week. Always having been more alternatively inclined in my working life, it’s a dramatic environment change (apart from the awesome mac I’ve been equipped with). Cubicle life and the typical nine to five hours have kind of caught me off guard if I’m being totally honest. It’s been four years that I’ve been independently employed by my own company (blogging and creating social media presences for brands), with another addition soon-to-be-added to the mix. Integrating a more structure-based experience was always part of the plan: get to know how the traditionalists do it. Somehow though, it all feels like I’m living my daylight hours in the Matrix. The faces of people commuting in the early morning, the wear and tear of the draining lifestyles so many of them lead, and the overall discontent of middle aged men and women who have witnessed countless years flee with little to show for it. Our society’s blueprint when it comes to working norms feels all too much like a time trap. I look at individuals who have so much education, class, presence and motivation to succeed – only to allow themselves the weight of implied overtime shifts and replaceable, low-income generating positions in less than ideal developmental environments. While I may mostly be a dreamer, I’m also a realist. I understand that there is a hierarchy when it comes to experience and expertise (and that you must grow it over time). I also understand that getting a job in your desired field is an incredible task in itself (it’s absolutely mind blowing how many people have stellar educations, with no open career options relating to what they studied). What saddens me most though, is when dreams and ambition slip away from people, leaving them only with the empty shell a business entity has stripped them of.
“Among his various possible beings each man always finds one which is his genuine and authentic being. The voice which calls him to that authentic being is what we call “vocation.” But the majority of men devote themselves to silencing that voice of the vocation and refusing to hear it. They manage to make a noise within themselves… to distract their own attention in order not to hear it; and they defraud themselves by substituting for their genuine selves a false course of life.”
-Jose Ortega Gasset
This weekend I had a clarifying moment (thanks to my husband-to-be). Sometimes, we get too caught up in our immediate surroundings. We forget how vast the world and all it’s opportunities really are, how much possibility there is, waiting patiently to be conquered. Guiltily, although I always seem to have my end goals in mind, I constantly shorthand myself by assuming that the best is saved for last. In the moment, I must take what comes and keep at it until I deserve what I’m really after. I’m wrong. Why not now? Why always the timed delay? If you have experience, are presentable and ready for something new in your life, why wait? The big prize, is always the hardest to get. Normally only awarded to the most educated, prodigal people with incredible working experience and recommendations, right? Wrong. Who gets it? Well, either the guy (and when I say guy, I also mean gal) with the really great family connections, or the guy who has so much fight inside (for himself, his future, and his family), that he doesn’t mind doing what it takes to get there (no matter how abrupt – not to be mistaken with corrupt!). I realized today that if you don’t go and do what others won’t, you’ll never get anything different than all the rest (a crippling reality if you’re dreams are far from modest). The secret ingredient? Fanning the fight. We all have it within us (even us timid personalities). It’s worst enemy? Total comfort. The moment you let yourself settle and rest, is the moment you’ve been conquered. The moment you compromise your individual, is the moment you start breeding resentment and bitterness. There are so many ways the world can grab a piece of you and take advantage of everything you have to offer. Are you going to be the one who benefits from it, or is it?
I just started an amazing book called Mastery – a rightful tool to understanding how the brain, society, and your talents/disciplinary skills all come together to allow you just that – Mastery in your given craft. I’ve advertised it as an essential read for many reasons, but above all, to understanding the time involved with attaining such a higher level of functioning (not to mention all it’s indirect influences). For those of you who haven’t hopped on the Robert Greene bandwagon, now’s the time (I’ve read nearly all his other books on seduction, law, and power). If you’ve gotten lost, headed off track, or are stumbling with where you are career-wise, you need to peek inside this book (ssshhhh… don’t tell, but there are free pdf downloads available online if you want an instant fix right now). It’s the glimmer of hope you needed to rewiring your brain to think like someone with a higher understanding of common sense (aka, anti-mainstream). It’s so easy to be mislead in the world. When you find something, how do you trust it? What makes it credible? Whose advice do you take? Your own. Always. Of course, historical mentors are always a reliable study as well…
Strategies for the Creative-Active Phase
“Don’t think about why you question, simply don’t stop questioning. Don’t worry about what you can’t answer, and don’t try to explain what you can’t know. Curiosity is it’s own reason. Aren’t you in awe when you contemplate the mysteries of eternity, of life, of the marvelous structure behind reality? And this is the miracle of the human mind – to use it’s construction, concepts, and formulas as tools to explain what man sees, feels, and touches. Try to comprehend a little more each day. Have holy curiosity.
The intent of this post was not to harp on corporate ambiances and protocol, but instead to shine a golden light on your real worth, happiness, and satisfaction. If you love what you’re doing, are working in your dream space, getting inspired by your co-workers and clients, and getting paid fairly to lead a beautiful life – then you’ve truly hit the jackpot (please, always factor in having lots of room to grow within – don’t let yourself get stale). If you’ve ditched normalized structure for your own regimes and projects, kudos to you for making the leap. If you’re in a place that compromises your values, leaves you worn out, and leaks disrespect and an unprofessional attitude however, maybe it’s time to fearlessly move forward (or at least keep your eyes peeled for different options until you do). The moment you settle, is the moment you lose grip of that fire, eventually allowing it to burn out. Isn’t it worth it to walk into where you want to be and show them your credentials? Who cares if they say no (hell, hope they say no! If there’s one thing you should be getting comfortable with, it’s rejection and the new leads that span from within it). All I’m saying (through relay of my man’s earlier pep talk), is that the little initial risks that we’re always so scared of (with the people that don’t even matter to us in the first place), are the only ones keeping us from what we really want in life. Let them see your face. Let them see your personality. Wow them. Refuse to choke at the defining moments. Earn your place, and never stop fighting to keep it and move up.
Starting tomorrow I’ll be checking out a few Montreal fashion week shows before heading to NYC on wednesday for a week with my beau. Can’t wait to be there, knocking down doors and soaking up some major runway beauty.
xoxPosted under fashion, inspiration, Uncategorized by Robyn